Life the live you want
Recently I read the interview of the global CEO of
“Opportunities International”, Carly Fiorina. A remarkable woman, who was the first female CEO
of a fortune company, HP, she said: “Women can live the life they want to”.
Reading this statement, I felt very inspired and motivated. Life
is truly what we make of it. Two people living in the same circumstance can
have drastically different views and opinions on life. They can perceive it to
be utterly beautiful or utterly disappointing, enough to fill themselves with
self-pity.
I feel this is all the more relevant in the case of women. They
can either chose to live within the norms that the society has knowingly and
unknowingly set for them over many centuries, or they can chose to be something
nobody ever was. They can either create homes and stay content there in that tight square or they
can go out there and stretch themselves to achieve things unimaginable. But one
second, why can’t they do both?
Why do women have to choose from all the things they can do?
Why do the words ‘either’ ‘or’ play such an important role
in their lives, and not the world ‘and’ ‘also’?
Well, I don’t know about your answers. I found my answer
long back. I decided that I will not live the life of ‘either’ ‘or’. I will
stand up and #UseYourAnd.
I will have a job that makes me happy every single day. I will
pursue a passion that gives me a sense of fulfillment and a deep joy. I will
enjoy my family life and try to give it my very best. And I will sleep each day
with the conviction that I used every ‘and’ I could. There will be days when
pangs of guilt at not giving one thing my complete attention will tug at my
heart but I will not let it budge from my dream life. There will be days when
regret, confusion, anxiety or hints of depression will dawn on me making me
feel like I have made the wrong choice somewhere in life, but I will try with
all my might to not let such intrusive thoughts derail me and take away my
joie-de-vivre!
Today after many years of having tried to live that life, I can
say with a bit of confidence that I may not have perfected the art of living my
life to the fullest, doing every possible thing and donning every possible
role; but I have made all efforts I can and will continue to do so. The ride
has not been easy and I have lost confidence when things haven’t gone the way I
planned or when I made the mistake of comparing myself with other women who
have made conventional choices; but I have managed to stay afloat, make my own
rules and live a life that I deeply proud of
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