Sunday, March 01, 2015

My Uncle T

Me: Uncle T, I’m confused.
Uncle T: Why?
Me: Because I hate my job and yet I’m forced to do it.
Uncle T: Why do you hate it?
Me: Because it’s not something which I would have ideally liked to do with my time or life, had it not been for the money. Plus I think my boss and most colleagues are shallow people which no vision in life.
Uncle T: But the job pays you and you’re thankful for it.
Me: Um, yes.
Uncle T: So?
Me: But I’m depressed to go to office every day.
Uncle T: Because you’d rather not go to office?
Me: Exactly!
Uncle T: And yet you want the money and security of a job?
Me: Errr…
Uncle T: I think you know where I’m getting at.
Me: Ummm…
Uncle T: All you need is perspective. Stop being a spoilt brat who wants everything at her beck and call. There are times in life that are filled with compromise because this universe is not just about you or your petty wishes and expectations. There are times when things are about other people. You are not the center of the universe, you are just one of the specks in it.
Me: Errr…
Uncle T: If you want a salary, then you have to accept the cost that is associated with it. Else learn to live with less money doing what you would rather wake up to do every morning, for the rest of your life. Till then stop complaining and expecting everything to fall your way. Stop looking at what is not working according to your plans and desires. Look at the good that’s all around you and make the most of it. Smile till you are able to because things could be much worse.
Me: (smile)

And that’s how most conversations with Uncle T end for me. He is rough and brusque, but he is always 100% right. He believes in giving things your 100% and then knowing that only the best results will come your way. He believes in looking at oneself as the source of strength, happiness and joy for those around; and hence obviously becoming the source of joy and contentment for self.

He says that if we can depend on ourselves for everything, then we will stop looking at others as sources of meeting our needs. We will live a full life, making the most of everything that we have, being the best we can be. We will not waste any moment wanting things to be any other way because we will be so deeply involved and invested in every moment of our life. We will not idolize any other version of our life, because we will not want to let go of the current version knowing how beautifully it is full of potential for all things beautiful and perfect.

Thanks Uncle T for always being that harsh but wise voice that brings me back to the state of self-reliance that I always, always want to be in. Thanks HDFC for giving me this opportunity to talk about Uncle T – I love your message of making family live on their own merit! I loved your ad film that brings out this message in such a nice way...

p.s. My post is part of an Indiblogger activity

Saturday, February 28, 2015

How I'll buy a new car with no fikar of dodgy brokers

Recently my friend went through a crazy experience while he went about the long and exhausting process of selling his car. It started out as something so harmless and simple that we were all deceived into believing it will b be a cakewalk. He told us one day over dinner that he is planning to let go of his beloved Maruti Swift finally and planning to get a sedan, model of which he was yet to finalize. We all raised a toast to that and began making plans of long drives in his swanky new mean machine to all nearby holiday spots, beaches and mountains. We even made him pay for the dinner in celebrations of his soon to become awesome driving and road life.

But the party ended there.

Over the next few days, he contacted many brokers who systematically set out to make his life miserable. They got him buyers that didn’t seem interested in his beloved Swift at all. They pointed out all mistakes possible with it and quoted prices that were ridiculously low. The brokers called him at odd hours and were non apologetic about it – if he didn’t answer, they scared him at the potential loss of sale. At the end of it, he was so stressed out that he sold the car to the next buyer that the broker suggested at a price that was easily 15% lesser than what he was expecting. On top of that, they charged him a 2.5% commission which brought his gain even lower.

So when I considered selling my old car and replacing it with something better, I decided that a broker was totally out of the question. I was placing my trust in nothing other than Quikr NXT.

With Quikr Nxt, I can immediately connect with a buyer through chat across Quikr's mobile app, mobile site and even its desktop site. This feature will transform India's online classifieds market as it enables users to communicate with each other at their convenience and request more details about the product or service, without requiring a single phone call.

What adds to its usefulness is that fact that I can keep my number totally private, as I can just make use of the chat function. No more fears of stalking and safety! The entire process can happen at my convenience since I will have the flexibility to chat with them rather than talking to them. I will totally in control of my buying and selling decisions. I will go in the same effortless way to buy my next dream car!

When I am trying to sell my old car or approaching sellers on Quikr NXT to buy a netter new car, I can archive my chats to later compare notes easily. I won’t have to remember everything and can rely on the computer’s sharp automatic memory. And lastly, but not least importantly, I can easily share photos at the click of a button. Using the easy share options available on the Quikr NXT chat, I can share photos of my old car with buyers who show genuine interst and who I shortlist. Similarly when I will use Quikr NXT to buy my next car, I will ask for the phots and take much better informed decisions. Thanks to Quikr NXT, no dealing with manipulative brokers for me!

 p.s. This post is a part of this campaign by Quikr NXT and Indiblogger

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Bedtime rituals for the little one

Since I do have a baby of my own, I invited one of my friends to write this post. Here’s what my friend, Anita, a new mom with a cute six-month baby girl ha to say about her fun bed time rituals that ensure that the little one gets deep good night’s sleep.

It’s very important for your little one to get good night’s rest. After the bundle of energy that she has throughout the day, she needs to just sleep a deep sleep to be recharged for the next day, and stay healthy and happy. Here are some of my favorite Bedtime Rituals that help my little one get a good night’s rest:

Swing and lull

The little one loves to slowly lulled into sleep, in her tiny little swing. The slow movement helps gradually sooth her, makes her drowsy and dreamy. Often after a nice little slow swinging, I find her easily slipping off into a nice sleep. And it becomes fun when she is in a playful mood because she starts chuckling and playing along! She tries to move her body thinking it will make the swing go faster or she tries to fall this way or that, and make it tougher for me to move her around :)

Rhythmic sounds

I read somewhere that babies heard loud noises when they were in mother’s tummies and are not only used to it, but actually enjoy it. And I’m sure this is what lullabies are such a hit with the little ones. I make these soft rhythmic sounds when my little sweetheart is dozing off and it instantly seems to calm her. I feel that there must be something to the rhythm of the sound and her feeling at peace. Added to that the connect with my voice must be building a sense of familiarity with the mother. The comfort of hearing the same voice over and over, must be a reassuring factor for her too. and then of course is the fun part – she responds with those tiny gurgling sounds, she laughs, whines or demands attention based on her mood. She tries to imitate me, sing songs and say things in her cute little alien language – all making me roll into fits of laughter. Here is an adorable video for you..

Getting the baby to sleep is never easy but over a period of time, I have made it fun for both of us. My activities and her responses have made our fun bedtime rituals not only engaging but also ensure that she gets a good night’s sleep, only to wake up refreshed and happy! I would love to hear on Canary’s blog on what all of you readers have to say about this – would love to hear your feedback on my rituals as well learn some more rituals from you. You can share them here too with the baby's best friend Pampers :)